Women In Their 20s Share How Meditation Helped Them Control Their Emotions, Gain Focus, Prevent Anxiety
Just thinking about when this pandemic will end can give you a headache and may even cause anxiety. Everything has been extra hard lately, and we all need a breather, a way to manage all these pent up emotions. If you’re yearning for a semblance of calm to restore your ~inner peace~, meditation is the way to go.
Meditation is a proven method for addressing the stresses you feel. , “Relaxation isn’t a luxury. In the world we live in, it’s a necessity. The everyday tension and stress that accompanies life in the 21st century can be debilitating to our mental and physical health. We need something deeper than an occasional treat. We need something that will get to the root of the problem,” according to Ten Percent Happier.
Kalee Velasco, 25, started doing yoga in 2016 then later added meditation in 2017 to her routine. Her goal was to gain more focus, clarity, and peace of mind. In 2019, she continued to meditate consistently to discover more things about herself.
“At first, no one in particular inspired me to meditate. I was simply meditating out of curiosity from an article I’ve read. Until I discovered my friends in the spiritual community were meditating differently: to receive messages from the Universe and to discover their truest potentials. The deeper they were in their spiritual practice, the more inspired I was to meditate,” she narrates.
Twenty-seven-year-old Katrina Madamba only started to meditate January of this year. She decided to try it because her mind always goes into relentless panic whenever something unexpected comes up.
“I used to like thinking that I had a knack for fixing anything, given the nature of my work. It has been a habit of mine to think of multiple solutions on several possible situations that I may encounter,” she explains.
She was also inspired by the book Law of Attraction. “In a nutshell, [it’s] a philosophy that whatever is happening inside of us gets mirrored in our actual experience of the world around us,” she adds.
What are the benefits of meditation?
Meditation can help reduce stress, control anxiety, promote emotional health, enhance self-awareness, and lengthen attention span. It may reduce (age-related) memory loss, can generate kindness, may help fight addictions, improve sleep, help control pain, and can decrease blood pressure too.
Kalee shares that as a medical student, meditation helped her focus on her studies. It also prevented her from experiencing burnout, depression, and panic attacks, especially in school. Meditation also helped her protect her energy before starting her day or before encountering people. “In this way, I don’t get to absorb the negative energy they may give. It also helped me balance my emotions and be more open-minded and relaxed when things don’t go as planned,” she shares.
“I also started to filter my words and actions compared to my old self. I started to look forward to mornings just to meditate, started to follow a stricter schedule and to maximize my time. With meditation, I can say that I discovered and embraced the best and worst versions of myself. I am more grateful now than ever. It also helped my family members grow, strengthen their faith and be more sensitive to the energy they give and receive. It has changed our lives as individuals and as a family,” she adds.
Meditation also helped Katrina control her emotions. She says she stopped having anxiety attacks when she started meditating, and that she has become more receptive towards different situations and hurdles.
“Having the thought that you have no control over things may seem scary, but looking at it in a lighter way, it is easier to accept when things never go my way. I became more forgiving to myself,” she explains.
“Ever since I started meditating, I make it a daily goal to either feel good or just neutral. It should never go lower than neutral, and my mood has been like that since then. People have also noticed that I became less irritable and have become more patient in general,” she adds.
How can you start meditating?
Kalee started meditating every other week, then weekly, then now daily. She began with deep breathing exercises. Later on, she added calming music and mantras, then slowly inserted morning affirmations.
“Eventually, I learned to just sit with my thoughts and let everything flow. Your own quiet space is the only thing you need. If this is not possible, earphones are good enough to cancel external noise. Also, an open heart and open mind are necessary,” she shares.
Katrina recommends searching for guided meditation and affirmations podcasts or videos on the Internet. “If these are not available, simply focusing on one inanimate object (like a leaf, a dirt on the wall, or anything, really) for about 15 minutes straight can be a good practice of meditation.
The key is focusing on one thing to detach from all the other things that you are thinking. With this, a quiet space is also much needed in meditating to avoid any distractions,” she shares.
Is meditation recommended for kids?
According to Today, “Anxiety is defined as ruminating over the past or worrying about the future, but meditation offers children the ability to calm their racing thoughts, ease the tension when they feel overstimulated, and be present in the moment, which provides them a sense of safety and control in their ever-changing environment.”
Kalee shares, “I do believe that kids should be taught to meditate for their mental, emotional and spiritual health. They are capable of touching lives with their innocence and great intentions. In fact, I encourage families to meditate together.”
Stress Free Kids says, “It is never too soon for a child to reap the benefits of relaxation and meditation. Show your children how you use relaxation throughout your day. Take deep breaths when you are driving or rushing to get out the door. Try a candlelight dinner or breakfast. See who can hold their gaze on the flame for 30 seconds
Introduce your family to or classical music. Explain to your children that you are calming yourself down or use positive statements when you are feeling frustrated. With a little practice, relaxation techniques will become second nature to you and your children.”
“Don’t be afraid to try. There are no set rules for this. If you think certain meditation practices don’t work for you, it’s okay. It’s difficult at the beginning, but with consistency and by being receptive, you will eventually get the hang of it.
“[Also] don’t be afraid to talk about it. You may be unconsciously helping others. I also suggest setting an intention before every meditation. Most importantly, this will help you discover your individual and collective purpose in this world,” Kalee advises.
It’s not easy to be alone with your thoughts, especially if you’re an overthinker. But practicing the art of mindfulness can actually help you in the long run. So, why don’t you try it this week? Try to allocate a few minutes for your first meditation attempt. Remember that nothing in this world is worth your peace of mind. Protect your energy at all costs!